Entitled 26-year-old girlfriend forces 28-year-old boyfriend to reject incredible job offer that will get him out of debt, after discovering he has to work on weekends: 'She said we are done if I accept this job'

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Emma Saven
Jul 23, 2025 9:00 PM EDT

Love or Money? This is the grand question, which to many, the answer may seem obvious (love)

In theory, there is no doubt about it. When we're old and grey, we imagine it would be more comforting to look back at fond memories with our loving family picnicking in Central Park, than staring at the Rolex we've had sitting on our left arm since the age of 32. At the end of the day, you can lie beside your adoring wife every night, but we do think the Porsche might take up most of the bed…

However, sometimes we are presented with financial opportunities that are able to pull us out of tough situations, and when our partners are unjustifiably holding us back from a brighter, more comfortable future, it could be time to reassess our situation, and if necessary, our partners. 

Take this couple for example, a 28-year-old man is offered a job that will completely solve his current financial issues. However, the job happens to require him over weekends, and that is the only time his girlfriend has off work… 

So she gives him an ultimatum: find another job that is more suitable to her time schedule, or say bye-bye to their relationship…

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  • When someone puts their wants and needs ahead of your own, leading you down a path that stunts your growth, you need to decide whether or not you want someone like that a part of your life. 

    Sometimes, you may even understand their desires and sympathize with their feelings. However, just because you understand someone's point doesn't mean you have to agree with it. When life gets complicated and you start hitting a wave of turbulence, it's important to put your own oxygen mask on first.

     

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    "She keeps saying I'm being unreasonable and choosing money over her"
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    AITAH for taking a job that’s twice the amount I’ve ever made and would solve my financial problems

    Got offered a job for $60k+ a year. Only problem is I'd have to work weekends. My gf works M-F and has weekends off. Her one
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    requirement is that I also don't work weekends. It has made my job search significantly more difficult and I said sc w it and
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    went to an interview anyways. They offered me the job and I want to take it but now she is freaking out.
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    I've been in a financial hole for years now and this job would help bring me out of it. I've been depr sed for years due to
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    finances. This would be life changing for me. We have lived together for 8 years and she said we are done if
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    I accept this job. She'd rather have me make $40k a year for now if it means I get weekends off for us to spend together. This
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    job also has full benefits which I have never had. I need health and dental, etc. Would I be the as ole to accept
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    the job? She keeps saying I'm being unreasonable and choosing money over her. Edit: Okay after all these comments of her being the
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    as ole I'm starting to feel bad now. She's always made more money than me and has supported me financially at times more than I'd like to admit. I'v
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    always been less financially stable than her and recently we bought a house because she didn't want to keep living in an apartment and to have nicer things in life.
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    It's became harder now that we live in a house, she pays most often the mortgage but I pay the Electric, water, internet, etc. Do all the cleaning, housework, yard, fixing up the house, etc. Now we are both struggling but I just
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    JOB OFFER LETTER RE: LETTER OF OFFER OF EMPLOYMENT Dess
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    need a better job to help out more. Obvi she doesn't want me having this job because the weekend thing and she's said I could just find a different job that I can make more $$ working M-F,
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    like going into a trade etc. The job I was offered was a Restaurant Manager for a popular franchise which suits me since I've managed restaurants in the past. We are 26f and 28m.
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    tictactoss NTA. Partners are there to lift you up, not hold you down...she *should* be delighted for you. After 8 years if her reaction to something this life changing in the most positive way is "I'll break up with you"...then let her. Or better yet, do it for her.
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    WineChick23 NTA. Why does SHE get to put requirements on YOUR job. If she doesn't want to be with you over this, next time it will just be something equally ridiculous. I'd be done with her over that ultimatum anyway.
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    Lizm3 You're not choosing money over her, you're choosing financial security and less stress. Saying that I can understand that she wants a partner she can spend quality
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    time with. She doesn't get to dictate what hours you work - that's your choice. But she can decide she doesn't want a partner who works weekends. That's her choice.
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    SlinkyMalinky20 NTA, she's not the one for you. This job sounds fantastic - congratulations!! Enjoy the financial peace and benefits. It will make your life so much more enjoyable.
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    Suspicious_Ratio_557 put your oxygen mask on first
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    SparklesIB NTA - And this is coming from a frustrated spouse whose husband works weekends. Do I prefer having him home when I am? Sure. Do I understand, especially in this economy, that it's not possible right now? You bet.
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    Marmite-JustSay No Giving you an ultimatum when you have a job offer that will fix your financial woes is a pretty sorry thing to do.
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    Missrdb79 Sounds like shes made the decision for herself! She wants to control you. You will be happier alone. God luck!
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    JenBeeKay I'm married to a pilot. He is gone every weekend AND every holiday as well as it being 4-6 days at a time. . If she loves you she will make it work.
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    onitshaanambra NTA. Double the income plus benefits? I wouldn't turn it down. Especially if you are in debt, and can use this to get yourself out of debt, please seize this opportunity.
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    onitshaanambra NTA. Double the income plus benefits? I wouldn't turn it down. Especially if you are in debt, and can use this to get yourself out of debt, please seize this opportunity.
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